A lot has happened in the last couple weeks to say the least. So let me take you back in time a little to get the full story.
Fred and I knew that we were to adopt again. For us it was just a matter of timing. So as we began to seek the Lord on when we would adopt again the news about China's special focus program came out. This news came out just after we had returned from China with Lily. Once Lily came home I kept up with her foster home in China's blog. During this time, God laid a special little boy on my heart that was currently at this foster home. I watched him, researched his condition and my heart grew stronger and stronger for him. As Fred and I discussed one evening our plans for moving forward with adoption, I explained to him that I was torn between China and Ethiopia. Was God opening a door for us with this new special focus program? I showed Fred the picture of this little boy on the foster home website and told him that if he ever showed up on our agency's waiting child list, he would have to hold me back. I didn't think much more of it. So we prayed about our decision and God led us to pursue adoption from Ethiopia.
I have been diligently working on our dossier, home study and immigration paperwork since we made this decision and April 15th our last paperwork was mailed off to immigration and our dossier is complete and ready to go upon receipt of our immigration approval. Whew....one down.
On April 14 (my mom's birthday), I wondered out to our adoption agency's website to check out a little girl my sister was telling me about. She said that she reminded her of me when I was little. My curiosity got the best of me, and I checked out the little boys while I was out there looking at this girl. To my utter amazement there was the little boy that my heart desired. As you can imagine, I was shocked, amazed, confused, scared....literally shaking all over. What are the chances....there are a little over a half a MILLION orphans in China...hundreds of adoption agencies around the world and THIS little boy, who God laid on my heart was sent to OURS! I immediately emailed my husband and gave him this news. He was not exactly in the same place as me. You see God had softened my heart and began to grow a desire for this little boy. God had to do the same with my husband. I never honestly thought I would EVER have the opportunity to call this little boy my son. So, I called our agency to see if anyone was viewing is file. Well, there was not only one family viewing is file but 6 families waiting to view his file. I explained to the lady at our agency that I was not interested in any other child but him.
So what else could a mom do but PRAY, PRAY and then PRAY some more. I asked Fred to pray along side of me during this time of waiting. I asked him what are we going to do if those 7 families decide not to accept him...he, half laughing, said well then I guess we will. I prayed hard every day. I cried a lot, longing for this little boy that I knew God had sent to us. I prayed that if it was HIS will that the other families would fall away and if he wasn't that HE would close the door.
On, April 26 I received an email from our agency saying that we could view his file. WHAT.....it was a good thing I was sitting down. I just began sobbing. I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was our son. I called my husband in tears, barely able to talk. We received his file and did a little more research on our own. I set up a conference call with our international adoption pediatrician (thank goodness for him) for Thursday, April 28 (Lily's birthday). We discussed his condition with him and gained a better understanding of what we were looking at and possibly dealing with. When we got off the phone, we both knew this special little boy was OURS!!! I emailed our agency that afternoon and accepted him. I completed our Letter of Intent (LOI) and sent it over to our agency on Friday. Our LOI was transcribed and sent to China on May 3 and we received our Pre-Approval on Friday, May 6.
So, you may be asking, what about Ethiopia...what about Miles. Well we are not giving up on him. We know that we are to pursue both adoptions at the same time. When we began the process with Ethiopia, things suddenly slowed down. Issues with child trafficking has brought Ethiopia to a major slow down. I remember thinking...Lord what are you doing? We step out in faith and obedience to you and things slow down. I was frustrated and didn't understand what was going on. Did we miss it? Oh no, we didn't miss God...not at all. We were walking in the center of God's will. The slow down had to happen because God had other plans for us. Plans to bring this little boy in China home to his family. Thank you God that you are bigger than us...that your plans are perfect.
So here he is. We can't wait to hold him in our arms!
LIAM BENJAMIN-BAO WAITE
OH MY WORD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so thrilled for you!!! which one was he-- i stalk that page madly???!!! and what is his SN? soooo thrilled!! is he another Henan cutie??? when do you expect to travel?? are you tired of my questions????:) Happy day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteHis special need is...congenital megacolon and bilateral hydronephrosis (post-surgery). Really hard to say what extent of kidney damage there is if any. It was caught early (4 months old) and he has had surgery. I have not seen anything on the blog about him having any complications or symptoms from the kidneys or colon. I would expect to travel in the late fall possibly. Hard to tell until we have our immigration and homestudy paperwork updated. His file has already been removed from the CCAI waiting child website.
ReplyDeletei soooo looked at him!!!!!!! ben has bilateral hydronephrosis-- no damage whatsoever!!! congrats!
ReplyDeletethrilled for your family! what a precious story of God's plan. love it!!
ReplyDelete-Renae
Emily....I guess you will be go my go to girl then. I didn't know Ben had the same thing. Comforting to know he is just fine.
ReplyDeleteyep- it's actually how he got home 6 months early! they diagnosised him incorrectly in china with kidney failure-- he sees his urologist (or you can see a nephrologist) once a year now. they did several tests on him at first to see cause - but his ureters are just too narrow at the top to drain properly. he had some more swelling once he potty trained- but so far, no surgery.
ReplyDeleteso the bilateral hydronephrosis was the reason your little guy caught me heart and attention-- haven't seen that need on the SF list!!! i am soooooooooo thrilled he's coming home to you!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWow, Wow, Wow!!! What an awesome God glorifying story!!So excited for you guys, Liam is such a cutie. Will be praying and following!!!
ReplyDeleteCongrats to the Waite Family! He is so adorable! So happy to share a special Mother's Day wish for your family, that you travel soon bring home your new son! From Henan again? Thanks for sharing the wonderful news!
ReplyDelete(two of my girls have kidney issues too)
I had no idea Emily. So nice that I have you AND Cindy to talk to if I need some advice.
ReplyDeleteThanks for all your sweet comments!
AAAHHHH!!! What a great post! My heart is leaping with joy for you guys!!! Cannot wait to follow along on the journey. We are a CCAI family and I admit, I check the waiting children daily. LOVE IT!!!
ReplyDeletePraising God for this great news!!!!